I’m a mom of two boys. Before I got pregnant, I really did not know or care as to what I had, and like most. I just wanted a healthy baby. So when I first got pregnant with my son Jahlil, I was thrilled I was having a baby boy. I couldn’t wait to call my husband and tell him the news that I had just received. WE’RE HAVING A BOY.
As most men, he was excited to have someone to carry on his legacy, his name. You know all that macho type stuff. I was happy that I was going to have a little boy who would call me mom. I started mentally preparing for boy life. You know, getting ready for the imaginary pirate takeovers. The trains, the trucks, the cars, sports. You name it.
And boy did we get just that. Jahlil is now 4 and is all-boy. He loves to climb, to roar like a lion, dinosaurs (T-rex being his favorite, of course), play with dirt. Just everything. He even laughs when he farts. While I’m just shaking my head.
So when I became pregnant, 4 months later with my second child. (Yes they are 13 months apart). I started daydreaming about sibling life between the two. Would I want Jahlil to have a brother or a sister? My sibling is the same sex, and to be honest there is a lot of competition to be on the same level or achieve the same things. Whereas my husband sibling is of the opposite sex, and there was really no competition. They each had their own lane.
So when I found out, my second child was a boy, My mind started racing. Do I want them to play the same sports? What if one is better than the other. How will the other feel? Would they be able to make their own identity? Would they always have the same friends? As a parent you want to help your kids come into their own identity, and to foster and nurture it.
Amir is now 3 and he pretty much does exactly what he sees his brother do. They are literally “PEAT” and “REPEAT” . If one does it, the other must do it. Otherwise, I’m talking a screaming toddler out of a tantrum. lol They are now at ages, where they are starting to show some different interest. Jahlil loves to run, whereas Amir love to catch. My goal is to let them share the same experience while allowing them to be individuals. It’s much harder than it sounds…lol
So now that I have two boys, I’ve been thinking about a third., but the begging question now is. Do I want another boy? Of course, I still want a healthy baby. That’s first and foremost, but I can’t help to desire a baby girl. To have someone who looks like me, where we can wear matching outfits. Someone who I can pass down some “girl knowledge” too. Now before y’all crucify me. Yes I know I can do all of these things with my boys, that still doesn’t change the fact that I want a mini-me.
I think about life in the house with 4 boys. (My husband, and 3 boys) I cringe….No lie…..It’s a challenge now keeping the bathroom clean, not hearing some car crashing, or balls being thrown, or sports on TV. I mean I swear if I hear another Dinotruck i’m going to implode. LOL
My husband is convinced that if we try, it will be another boy. So that alone has me cautious…if you know what I mean. :). I think he says that to throw me off.
Motivated to grow our family and add another dynamic, inspired by the thoughts and love children bring, frustrated because I can’t have it my way…lol
Please tell me, if you’re living in a house with all boys/girls. I need more motivation and inspiration.
Much Love –
Dara
